FeNi Descriptions

ENFJ: Mad, Bad, and Dangerous To Know


ENFJs are god’s gift to women. If they are a woman, then they are god’s gift to themselves. These are the intense devil lovers that momma warned you about. They will seek you inexorably and make you howl for their love. Bad boys. Born on the wrong side of the track boys.

Don’t fuck with an ENFJ unless you want to be laying face down in a ditch in an anonymous grave outside of town. Due to their dominant extraverted feeling and inferior introverted thinking, they don’t know where the golden middle lies. You are either their family or their enemy. And they have what it takes to make their enemies pay.

If you are one of the ones they see as family then they basically own you and you better do what they say, or insinuate, or you’ll be lunch meat.

The men treat the women they make theirs like she belongs to his soul. You better not mess around, mess around. Remember Stanley from the movie, A Streetcar Named Desire? That is ENFJ man for you. Especially, if he has an Aries Sun and Moon as well. Cavemen.

ENFJs usually fall at point 8 on the enneagram. The ones that fall at point 3 on the enneagram are very different from this type I’m describing. They’re still ladies men but nicer and charming.

Back to the beast. The ENFJ type falling at point 8 on the enneagram is crazy, dangerous, and id-like monster. And this is quite positive for them. They are supposed to be this way. They are in touch with the dark impulses of man and woman. They want gratification of their base impulses and they are good at seeking out the avenues for the attainment of these desires.

Don’t get me wrong. A good many of them are dedicated to world-evolutionary missions and all that but as people and personalities they tend to be hard to take for the common run of man, especially ISTJs, who hate them for being such pigs and amoralists. But, the thing is that ENFJs transcend conventional morality in a way, and often, by reveling in sensual and cathartic experience, save humanity from mediocrity.

Many ENFJs are astonishing for the absolute energy and dedication they put into their careers. ENFJs are artists essentially. They are best at acting and directing. Some are also painters and composers. Anything where they can invest their emotional and penetrating energy to reveal the darkness of human nature. The human condition is their battleground and they don’t fuck around here. If they do something, it is epic, grandiose, huge, overarching, floor-flushing, and heartaching. Suffering and catharsis. Apocalypse Now. That type of thing.

Men obviously have an easier time being ENFJs. For women it is generally less acceptable for them to go running around being naughty and base primal witches. I also don’t know of nearly as many women that are this type that are famous but that could be my ignorance. Many famous men in the entertainment industry are ENFJ types: Marlon Brando, Javier Bardem, Michael Madsen, Elvis. Dark and sexual, sometimes charming, sometimes murderous, but usually bad boys. Charisma is their keyword.

ENFJs often communicate nonverbally and enjoy putting people at disease by employing threatening body postures and insinuating and inferential language. They rule others by a kind of binding and scary silence. It is what they don’t say that is often terrifying just as in horror movies where the scariest monsters are often the ones you can’t see fully, but just in glimpses where your imagination fills in the rest of the picture. Watch actor/director Vincent Gallo in the movie, Buffalo ’66, for a little schooling in this side of the ENFJ. Marlon Brando, who is widely considered to be one of the greatest and most influential film actors of all time, demonstrates this side of ENFJ in many of his movies. He made a career out of what he didn’t say and the way he said things. Last Tango in Paris is a great movie to watch an ENFJ in ruins. It has all the ENFJ trademarks; sexual beast, tortured soul, a lot of nonverbal and interesting visual moments, most of which are sexual, and did I mention sex. Yes, ENFJs are sex. Pornographic beasts. Not so much the physical act of sex exclusively, but the pornographic and obscene aspects of existence as a feeling creature in an increasingly mechanized and regimented world.

Want to hear something awesome about ENFJs? They are great at sex. No, just kidding. Well, no I’m not. But, they will stand up for marginalized peoples and causes. They will put themselves and their livelihoods on the line to help those who have been pushed into the corners by the machine or the man or whatever. Brando actually did this when he boycotted the 45th Academy Awards ceremony in protest for the way Native Americans were treated by the film industry.

O, and ENFJs have seen shit, monsters of experience that they are. They have seen into the heart of darkness. Some of them are forever rendered cynical by that and live nihilistically as a result. Others, decide to bounce back with such positivity and optimism and become the self-help gurus to end all other self-help gurus. Tony Robbins comes to mind, but he is an ENFJ that is falling at point 3 on the enneagram, rather than at point 8. These ENFJs are likely to be superhumanly positive and resilient. The point 8 ENFJs are likely to become cynical, despairing and hard-hearted as a result of their brushes with the human condition. But, the point is that ENFJs have a lot of experience with many different people. Direct experience. This is where they differ from INFJs, for example, who more commonly use introjection to know the human condition. INFJs, being introverts, are “devouring” in the sense that Jung uses the term in his book, Psychological Types. ENFJs, being extroverts, are “prolific”, meaning they get around and have a plethora of real relationships. They roll through the mud of life. INFJs are more ivory tower by comparison.

ENFJs are monsters. Basically, anything they do you can say they are monsters of “fill in the blank.” They are monsters of love, monsters of experience, monsters of art. Look into this whole monster archetype because it is what ENFJs reveal in a rather profound way. They are not nice. But, they are not evil either. They more reveal evil through their pursuits. They are not afraid to explore the limits of the human condition.

And they are good at sex.