Schema Therapy, Jeffrey Young, Enneagram & More
Nov 28, 2016 2:07:47 GMT -5 by The Doctor
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Post by The Doctor on Nov 28, 2016 2:07:47 GMT -5
5.) How do you express fear?
- Externalized fear: Expresses fear openly by displaying paranoia through hoarding,
Information, possessions) as well as detachment. (is this 7 or 6?)
- Repressed fear: Avoidance of showing fear.
May manifest as surrounding yourself with safety/security and suspiciousness of the unknown. (is this 6?)
- Internalized fear: Keeping fear to yourself.
May manifest as engaging in fun activities to avoid facing the fear contained within. (is this 5 or 7?)
I think they have the fear types screwed up, but the others seem to match. On the topic of parallels, a few conflicts I have with the descriptions of the enneagram:
I can see how this set of options would be confusing.
That's supposed to be 5, 6, and then 7... but these questions are far too surface level and stereotypical. I don't think they really understand Enneagram. The other things you quoted also suffered from this problem, but to directly address these...
5s are generally pretty quiet about their anxieties, often seeking to prove them 'wrong' themselves. It's vital that THEY are the ones to deal with it, not someone else who might not be able to be relied upon later. That's where the competence and hoarding comes in. Having the supplies, knowledge, or other forms of competence invalidate the source of anxiety. They're outwardly focused on the sources, but they're very internalized in their response.
6s are the ones that are the most open about their anxieties. They're often pointing out potential problems and instead of trying to battle what they fear, they prepare by trying to form coalitions. "There is safety in numbers" is pretty much the 6 credo. Think angry mob going after Frankenstein's monster because they're afraid of it. This is why 6s are so prone to create and maintain support networks (like how 5s hoard and stockpile).
7s rarely mention their anxieties because they're rarely thinking about them. Their strategy is to distract themselves from getting to anxiety in the first place with pleasure and other activities. Think Alfred E. Neuman: "What? Me worry?" They're too busy having fun to be open to anxiety. They seek to avoid discomfort primarily, and anxiety isn't comfortable. 7 fear is so internalized that they often don't realize they have it and redirect it into 'thrills'. Classic example is how 7s often see danger (skydiving, rollercoasters, extreme sports) as fun.