Post by teatime on Jul 29, 2017 18:07:50 GMT -5
I suspect Je and Pi cluster together because of the following. When Si doesn't work, I can't really use Te much because there is nothing to structure. Ne could pull up crazy scenarios, but double extraversion is difficult. If I'd like to explain something, but if I can't pull up an example or have verbal fluency by recalling the proper words, there is nothing for Te to structure.
I was thinking of when I can best use Je, and sometimes I get too Ne to make a decision in my private life, but I can also be super Te at times. I don't like to do that around people because I can be overbearing (that choice of words in your description was one of the things that made me think I use Te and not Fe). Where there is no order, I get very Te. Someone recently asked if I was always busy and my house was super organized. This was because they have only seen me on team projects where nobody else really takes the lead. I hate taking the lead, but sometimes someone just has to. I get sooo much more done when people are expecting something from me (that's why I figured this was Fe, not Te). I did't always use Je gently, unless I was doing it consciously. Much easier to do when I do it regularly, as for a living. But I've also had periods in my life where I haven't needed it much, and integrating the many functions fell out of practice.
The past three years have been especially difficult for me. Since my second child was born, my memory and fluency have gotten so bad. Working memory and it seems capacity to create new memories. I loathe making an audience wait while I load the data, so it's much easier to just not do it and speak in vague generalities.
As much as a loathe vague generalities, I loathe pausing awkwardly even worse. So Ne bubble wins when Si is slow. And it's not just because Si is slow, but because of preference. As a child, the worst thing in the world was to be vulnerable. The worst thing was to be in front of people and let on about being shy, so it was always preferable to say something (even if it was stupid) than stand there shyly and be exposed.
I was thinking of when I can best use Je, and sometimes I get too Ne to make a decision in my private life, but I can also be super Te at times. I don't like to do that around people because I can be overbearing (that choice of words in your description was one of the things that made me think I use Te and not Fe). Where there is no order, I get very Te. Someone recently asked if I was always busy and my house was super organized. This was because they have only seen me on team projects where nobody else really takes the lead. I hate taking the lead, but sometimes someone just has to. I get sooo much more done when people are expecting something from me (that's why I figured this was Fe, not Te). I did't always use Je gently, unless I was doing it consciously. Much easier to do when I do it regularly, as for a living. But I've also had periods in my life where I haven't needed it much, and integrating the many functions fell out of practice.
The past three years have been especially difficult for me. Since my second child was born, my memory and fluency have gotten so bad. Working memory and it seems capacity to create new memories. I loathe making an audience wait while I load the data, so it's much easier to just not do it and speak in vague generalities.
As much as a loathe vague generalities, I loathe pausing awkwardly even worse. So Ne bubble wins when Si is slow. And it's not just because Si is slow, but because of preference. As a child, the worst thing in the world was to be vulnerable. The worst thing was to be in front of people and let on about being shy, so it was always preferable to say something (even if it was stupid) than stand there shyly and be exposed.