The contrast between Te woman and Fe women is different from the contrast between Te men and Fe men. There is a lot of cultural noise embedded in these two functions which would at face value make most Fe males seem Te, and most Te females seem Fe. But that's actually not the case. There's about an equal level of F males as females, and equal level of T males as females. This thread will get into women in particular.
Notice the type of attitude they have in their femininity. It's a "harder" type of feeling. They have the innate confidence of Te but coated with a more elegant presentation. Yet there is still a sense that underneath they are not as sensitive as they outwardly appear. Also take note of the similarities in the voice. The voice remains constant, unbroken, monotone and moves rapidly. Try to identify the general rhythm of the voice in comparison to the Fe-lead females below.
I can see what you mean by "calculated" and "worn on purpose," but maybe it's just that femininity manifests differently in Fe and Te (and it also depends on what your idea/definition of femininity is, I suppose). The Fe ladies do seem to have a more innate gentleness in their speech and expression. Their eye movements are also quite different, though I don't know if that's more due to their respective P functions.