Te/Fi Misconceptions and Prejudices
Jun 18, 2013 9:22:46 GMT -5 by starlit7
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Post by starlit7 on Jun 18, 2013 9:22:46 GMT -5
Cold
Hardened
Intimidating
Mean
Evil
Scary
Calculating
Antisocial
Dark
Pessimistic
**This list could use expansion**
These are some words that reflect prejudice against people who are high in Te, particularly when Te is paired with Ni. Words like these inspire the person who lacks social skills or who has Antisocial Personality Disorder to identify with these functions. High Te types who are not socially inept or disturbed move away from their true type because they do not relate to any of the above perceptions of their type.
I'd like to see threads created for each of the function pairs that address prejudices and stereotypes, but my focus is Te>Fi. This space is for CT verified Te-dominants and auxillaries to discuss biases against their way of thinking and being in the world, and for other CT verified types to discuss the origins and experiences of their own prejudices against Te and get respectful responses from people who represent our type.
Here are some of my experiences:
Get them first. I'm reminded of how humans tend to respond to small insects that they irrationally fear. No matter how small and harmless the creature, phobias drive us to act with aggression towards that which we don't understand. I've been that insect, pushed around and bullied, because others have used me as a mirror for their own dark tendencies, mistaking my straight face for that most unsettling thing that lies within them. This is the life of a spider.
Where is the limit? Some people find calm and collected unreal and/or fake. The true you, they think, is the you that emotes irrationally and lets it all hang out. Because of that, they will push and prod and test to uncover your emotional center. This emotional center, they believe, is something they are entitled to without actually knowing you. Some have mistaken my desire for emotional and sometimes social privacy as being antisocial. But no, I am not hostile, nor do I shun the social. I like people, but there are no shortcuts to intimacy. Don't even try. Being subject to people who erroneously believe that the emotional self is the true self has meant encountering people who believe they can say absolutely any heartless thing to me(I've run into too many men like this). I'm sure they felt "bulldozed" upon my setting them straight. Good for them.
Nothing to waste. I don't spend time on endeavors that are, to me, pointless. I try not to develop relationships that will go nowhere, or build castles that will tommorow be burned down. In truth, I have neither the time, the energy, nor the desire for short lived intimacies and activities. Like many people who are high in Ni and Te, I have always cared deeply about those close to me and the state of humanity, but I will not devote time and energy to fruitlessness. Perhaps this is why some who don't know me have painted me cold. My warmth and passion belongs to those ideas and people most important in my world.
Hardened
Intimidating
Mean
Evil
Scary
Calculating
Antisocial
Dark
Pessimistic
**This list could use expansion**
These are some words that reflect prejudice against people who are high in Te, particularly when Te is paired with Ni. Words like these inspire the person who lacks social skills or who has Antisocial Personality Disorder to identify with these functions. High Te types who are not socially inept or disturbed move away from their true type because they do not relate to any of the above perceptions of their type.
I'd like to see threads created for each of the function pairs that address prejudices and stereotypes, but my focus is Te>Fi. This space is for CT verified Te-dominants and auxillaries to discuss biases against their way of thinking and being in the world, and for other CT verified types to discuss the origins and experiences of their own prejudices against Te and get respectful responses from people who represent our type.
Here are some of my experiences:
Get them first. I'm reminded of how humans tend to respond to small insects that they irrationally fear. No matter how small and harmless the creature, phobias drive us to act with aggression towards that which we don't understand. I've been that insect, pushed around and bullied, because others have used me as a mirror for their own dark tendencies, mistaking my straight face for that most unsettling thing that lies within them. This is the life of a spider.
Where is the limit? Some people find calm and collected unreal and/or fake. The true you, they think, is the you that emotes irrationally and lets it all hang out. Because of that, they will push and prod and test to uncover your emotional center. This emotional center, they believe, is something they are entitled to without actually knowing you. Some have mistaken my desire for emotional and sometimes social privacy as being antisocial. But no, I am not hostile, nor do I shun the social. I like people, but there are no shortcuts to intimacy. Don't even try. Being subject to people who erroneously believe that the emotional self is the true self has meant encountering people who believe they can say absolutely any heartless thing to me(I've run into too many men like this). I'm sure they felt "bulldozed" upon my setting them straight. Good for them.
Nothing to waste. I don't spend time on endeavors that are, to me, pointless. I try not to develop relationships that will go nowhere, or build castles that will tommorow be burned down. In truth, I have neither the time, the energy, nor the desire for short lived intimacies and activities. Like many people who are high in Ni and Te, I have always cared deeply about those close to me and the state of humanity, but I will not devote time and energy to fruitlessness. Perhaps this is why some who don't know me have painted me cold. My warmth and passion belongs to those ideas and people most important in my world.