Post by peppergirl on Aug 10, 2013 17:58:42 GMT -5
anagrams I do experience the same, the freezing thing (especially with attractive guys ^^) and feeling a bit paralyzed where they're too many of them (noooo don't eat me with your eyeees! ). Ok, some Se/Ni users look more benign and I don't care strangely, go figure... I had some awkward feelings with some high Si users (though not sure if they were Si/Ne, I'd say 80% sure). Conclusions: differences make you feel uneasy. Especially the p functions.
Post by peppergirl on Aug 10, 2013 18:21:17 GMT -5
@morsecode I mean your feelings in general towards Ne/Si vs Se/Ni people, not in their psychological qualities but how their physical cues (eyes quality and movements) affect you, do you feel there's something different or not etc.
peppergirl Mmmm, well, i agree with the perceptions you and anagrams exposed.
It's hard to say... cause it depends immensely to me... on the person... But in general Ne/Si users have a sofness in their eyes that I like, it feels comfortable (trying to talk about how I feel about it). I agree with you that Se/Ni users have that sharpness in the eyes that can overwhelm people, I feel that when they stare at me, and also when I look at people. I feel some people feel impacted by my gaze the same way... It can affect people deeply for better or worse.. I believe other Se/Ni users have noticed the same reactions, that they cause strong reactions (positive and negative, depending on the personality of who's being observed). But it's because when I look at someone it's really investigative... It's putting their gist, their soul, their everything between the end of my tweezer... and they'll inevitably notice it and have a inner reaction (except when the person in question is so amazing, so amazing that I feel overwhelmed and lose myself and then it changes everything).
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Post by peppergirl on Aug 10, 2013 18:44:15 GMT -5
@morsecode So even Se/Ni users experience it, that would mean it would point toward an objective quality on which almost everybody agrees. It makes sense since Se/Ni is supposed to "investigate" what it sees in a "greedy" manner, making the one observed feel overwhelmed. Ne/Si on the outside looks less concerned about its surrounding making other people more "free" and comfortable.
Last Edit: Aug 10, 2013 18:46:26 GMT -5 by peppergirl
But I am only like that when i am looking at people (maybe because i find human beings endlessly fascinating? And because my Se in subordinated to my lead function?), i never see myself looking that way to objects, unless it's a work of art. ^^
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Post by peppergirl on Aug 10, 2013 18:59:02 GMT -5
@morsecode seems logical, one of those "benign" Se/Ni users would be my grandmother, for some reason I don't feel overwhelmed or investigated at all by her, it's like she barely look at me (her eyes are very small, it may help), her Fe on the other hand....
I'd agree, Se/Ni's are intense. I find them pretty intimidating, IRL, and always feel like they're more mature and "deeper" than I am, true or not. The feeling often goes away once I get to know them better, and it's a more of an initial impression thing (no, I do not endeavor to surround myself with Ne/Si's) but the intensity is definitely something I perceive as well. I always feel fluffy by comparison. Although this also happens with some J-leads... But it doesn't sound crazy at all. I too find it much easier to express myself around strangers who are Ne/Si. I have a great deal of respect for many Ni/Se's, they just intimidate me is all.
EDIT: And I'm always convinced I'm boring Ni/Se users, which may or may not be paranoia/misreading. Once again, just strangers here. Friends are friends, Ni/Se or Ne/Si.