One bit of obliviousness I've noticed is that I don't express myself in my living spaces or working spaces. Still, I'm starting to think about it more often so that got me wondering. Most of my friends have objects around them that they resonated with at one point or something that tells a story about themselves. Some even use their bodies to represent their story.
How do other Deltas feel about Decorating/Pimping their living/work spaces?
Well, I'm not a delta. Actually, I'm not too sure of my type at this point, but I identify with this 100%. Ever since childhood, I've had an unusual disconnect with all things material. I absolutely do not care about "things". I care about people, my pets, ideas, relationships, cause and effect, but not things. When we were young, my sister would get furious with me for playing with her favorite toys. I think she still has some of them stored away due to sentiment. I never got into her things to be mean, I just didn't understand her attachment to them, and my toys couldo get run over, and I wouldn't care that much. As an adult, I get teased at work for not having much on my desk. I'm just not sentimental, nor do I need comfort items. I adapt to whatever surroundings I'm in, and no further effort is required to feel at home. Anyway, sorry to ramble on, but this topic really hit home.
Interesting thread. Well, it seems to me there are different aspects of this that have been unfolding in the posts made so far here. One is the topic of feeling any type of attachment to objects and material things, which can include (or not) emotional attachment and... (Which I see as a different thing) feeling an inner push/tendency toward express one's identity through their physical surroundings.
The aspects of feeling attachment to physical things tackled on the topic of materialm and being generous when lending/sharing one's possessions.
I'm drawing these lines as different facets and paths can be taken here and they differ in their essence and the risk exists of ending up taking about many different things under the same tag and this morsecode gets cunfusednhelpme.
As far as the aspects of self-expression goes, I have a tendency to express my creativity in almost everything I do and that includes my home. My mother says that as a kid I was all the time creating things at home, transforming stuff, making toys, making costumes, shoes with cords and transforming old carnival costumes into other costumes and and yes, that includes the physical world around me, as much as the abstract word: inventing words, new words, minggling words into one to produce cross-meaning, cross languages, weird ways of pronouncing old words because yes, exploring different tones of voice, like, these things can get almost ridiculous but I have fun and see no limit to these explorations. And as I said, that includes manipulating the wonderful physical realm but as a starting point to the new, that is where the motivation resides.
So, the way things are in my home... I don't devalue the value of how cool it may be to change the color of the walls or painting the table turquoise, and adding a carpet or whatever that I fall in love with. Diy is great fun, I wish I had more time for this.
Cool and beautiful objects of decoration, I can be like when traveling: "oh. /o\ How awesome and different it is and would look at home, it is a pity it is too heavy to take in my luggage..."
So, decoration can be fun for me and a way of expressing myself and covey ideas and my personality but for instance I would never like to work with that, that wouldnt feed my soul, I wouldnt find personal meaning in that. In decorating other people's houses or offices.
As a teenaget, I personalized almost all my belonging, did lots of costumizing in clothes, and would make sure to make each detail unique, original, meaningful, a bit grunge, goth but I was such a politically correct rebel. still today, it can take a long time for me to get rid of my clothes because I am always changing them, cutting, sewing them and on them, dying them, etc. I knit like an old lady on the sofa. I have clothes older than 10 years and often obsess with some pieces of clothing to the point of almost only wearing them almost everyday because they speak something to me that I like. I wear old fashioned stuff, luv vintage and couldn't care less about trends... and If I see a piece of clothing that I believe that is me in form of clothes, i buy withot pondering much as long as the price is respectful - as they will 'enhance' who I truly am - even If it doesnt. back to decorating home and not the body, as a teenager I obsessed with the idea of putting a hammoc in my bedroom and so I did as fast as the whim came. Above it, carefully wrote with massive letters a quote saying something about art is here to allow us to speak the unspeakable by Paul klee, I loved to look at that wall and contemplate the quote •facepalm•.. that was the ultimate deepest truth.. art speakunspeakable to me that ispired my blood to run. Lmao. Art, creativity, self-expression and revelations inside the invisible were my reasons in the end.
If I Lost all my belongings, I think I would recover without much trouble but that doesnt mean I don't care or care too little. I do keep objects that remind me of sweet moments as they help me bring unique emotional memories. I have a deep nostalgic side and often remember my childhood and past with great excitement, as they being me a very comfy feeling "if I only could be in the past again...". Even these days I was searching for songs and bands of the 90's because they bring me back there, I often do these things and keep a special popsicle stick, shells, etc. They take me to a cosy sweet place... Each moment is so unique and symbolic and they formed what we are today, and I am getting emotional just by writing this.
I like to change the color of the lights and create a different vibe, buy a different cloth for the table, these things feel to me as a life celebration full of emotions, but in the end I dont care even that much... Hard to explain.
Last Edit: Aug 26, 2016 4:55:27 GMT -5 by morsecode
I've been to a few friends house that had a collection of "stuff related to new age" scattered around the house. Some of it I thought to be quiet interesting and nice. One was this glowy salt stone ionizer or... something like that.
That kind of stuff mixed with the whole hippy movement stuff I find endlessly interesting. Thought I find a way to ruin it for myself everytime.
Have a lava lamp? --Well... honestly blue spectrum light is bad for sleep and if you do intent on making a relaxing close to bedtime setting than it probably is not a good option. And that's frankly the only scenario where you want to use it... so gg.
Black light? --Should probably get some style for your room before going that far.
Those bastard blinds on my window? -- You're a renter... What you going to open a dialogue with the owner and attempt to change them? They were chosen for they're affordability you know?
Furniture? --Where precisely is this space you are going to put furniture?
OFFICE DESK?!?!?! --Actually... if you can afford one... that's a good idea.
Post by fenixwulfheart on Sept 22, 2016 8:31:27 GMT -5
I'm probably Beta rather than Delta. That said, I do enjoy customizing my home space, but only so that people who visit me at my home will be comfortable enough to stick around for some good old fashioned fighting games. If my home isn't comfy enough, friends may want to leave. That's no good, you know?
I don't exactly 'personalize'. I just go with like dark woods and furnishings that match the room's overall theme. Its more about avoiding negative effects on atmosphere than on actually making a good one. My own self never really enters this equation. I can easily adapt to or ignore whatever environment I happen to be in as long as my allergies don't go up to 11 ^^