Book Elaborations: SeFi Seelie Socialite
Mar 11, 2017 1:49:49 GMT -5 by Auburn
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Post by Auburn on Mar 11, 2017 1:49:49 GMT -5
Hi guys, haven't done any for this type yet so I figured I'd add one:
This is one of the most iconic iterations of the SeFi, I think. The one that's often the "bubbly" friend in the group.
Here are a few examples:
A male example, for some contrast:
(sorry I don't have too many of these)
...and I managed to find this rare video of Kaley Cuoco unscripted, and also not in a talk-show interview. I think this one really captures how it feels to chat with a Seelie Socialite in person:
some notes:
One of the curious things about the Seelie Socialite is that they're not usually sassy in the way you might expect a haughty version to be. Like Elle Fanning above, they can be very generous, understanding, empathetic, alturistic. There's an energy to them that's difficult to capture unless you have a friend like this. It can be inviting and animated. They're very "go with the flow" in the way the NeFi can also be, and they can become very attuned to social dynamics.
Faux-Fe (E+S+F general attitudes)
If you look at the second video (Elena Caroll) at around 0:35 you'll notice she starts to kindof give a disclaimer. And in the first video at around 0:35-0:40 Dakota Fanning says she was so embarrassed and didn't wanna hurt his feelings. This is what faux-Fe can look like in this type. This is not really Fe, as much as very normal emotional awareness, especially for this type. We can also note that as they say these things, they never stop appearing like an SeFi, nor having Fi expressions and the same type of psychology. And they also retain their characteristic Gamma energy and independence.
The seelie socialite (like all of us, really) is perfectly capable of feeling social pressure, shame, embarrassment, and the augmenting or degrading "flow" of a social situation. Indeed, having of an E+S+F general attitude, they are externally oriented to the happenings of life and how those happenings affect them and others personally. Hence Elena explaining how certain things guys do are either attractive or not attractive to her.
But these things shouldn't be mistaken for Fe. They will lack the engine to heavily coordinate the environment themselves in the way Fe would, and instead they utilize a combination of Se present awareness with Fi analysis to simply map the real-time E+S+F situation. If they participate in the social dynamic, it's in adding levity to the situation, in typical Explorer fashion, or if not they'll drift as they may into a better groove.
They may, for example, feel less of a responsibility to fix or alter an unpleasant situation/person, and instead try to start over somewhere else. And if the moment does come where they can't avoid the person, they end up using Te/Fi to communicate their discrepancy with them or logistically organize things better, often in the sassy Te/Fi way. And herein their judgment functions become clear.
When Fi is open, sensitive and receptive in this type, the SeFi will be highly motivated toward seeking out experiences which amplify a sense of vitality, transparency and interconnection. Just as each explorer type pursues that which satiates their thirst for novelty, the SeFi socialite will aim to enrich the moment through the exploration of others and the many interactions they bring.
Cognitive Type, ch 28.1
Cognitive Type, ch 28.1
This is one of the most iconic iterations of the SeFi, I think. The one that's often the "bubbly" friend in the group.
Here are a few examples:
A male example, for some contrast:
(sorry I don't have too many of these)
...and I managed to find this rare video of Kaley Cuoco unscripted, and also not in a talk-show interview. I think this one really captures how it feels to chat with a Seelie Socialite in person:
some notes:
One of the curious things about the Seelie Socialite is that they're not usually sassy in the way you might expect a haughty version to be. Like Elle Fanning above, they can be very generous, understanding, empathetic, alturistic. There's an energy to them that's difficult to capture unless you have a friend like this. It can be inviting and animated. They're very "go with the flow" in the way the NeFi can also be, and they can become very attuned to social dynamics.
Faux-Fe (E+S+F general attitudes)
If you look at the second video (Elena Caroll) at around 0:35 you'll notice she starts to kindof give a disclaimer. And in the first video at around 0:35-0:40 Dakota Fanning says she was so embarrassed and didn't wanna hurt his feelings. This is what faux-Fe can look like in this type. This is not really Fe, as much as very normal emotional awareness, especially for this type. We can also note that as they say these things, they never stop appearing like an SeFi, nor having Fi expressions and the same type of psychology. And they also retain their characteristic Gamma energy and independence.
The seelie socialite (like all of us, really) is perfectly capable of feeling social pressure, shame, embarrassment, and the augmenting or degrading "flow" of a social situation. Indeed, having of an E+S+F general attitude, they are externally oriented to the happenings of life and how those happenings affect them and others personally. Hence Elena explaining how certain things guys do are either attractive or not attractive to her.
But these things shouldn't be mistaken for Fe. They will lack the engine to heavily coordinate the environment themselves in the way Fe would, and instead they utilize a combination of Se present awareness with Fi analysis to simply map the real-time E+S+F situation. If they participate in the social dynamic, it's in adding levity to the situation, in typical Explorer fashion, or if not they'll drift as they may into a better groove.
They may, for example, feel less of a responsibility to fix or alter an unpleasant situation/person, and instead try to start over somewhere else. And if the moment does come where they can't avoid the person, they end up using Te/Fi to communicate their discrepancy with them or logistically organize things better, often in the sassy Te/Fi way. And herein their judgment functions become clear.
