Post by emotionallogic on Aug 21, 2013 4:39:51 GMT -5
I have a real problem with cycling between workaholism and work avoidance (and as for the latter, it often consists of me acting workaholic about some new shiny project that is not my scheduled work). I can think of another workaholic that I know well, and I'm at least 90% sure we're both Deltas (Te/Fi and Ne/Si). (I haven't finished being officially typed yet and I'm new at reading, but this other person's J-function and P-function signals seem quite unambiguous.)
It seems to me that with Te + Ne/Si I have an irresistible love of starting new projects and I execute them with obsessive thoroughness. Fi guilt comes into it too.
Te is stereotypically the workaholic function, right? Do other Deltas have an issue with this? What about Gammas (Te/Fi and Se/Ni) -- does Se/Ni generally make them more grounded and able to forsee consequences of taking on too much? Other quadrants?
What's your experience?
And if you're a Delta who struggles with this, what have you found that helps?
*has totally been up since 4 am writing a meeting for Friday*
Great thread, I'm interested in this topic too. I've also not been officially typed, but I think many of the readers have me as SeFi, I absolutely work a lot, I would say 'workaholic'.. however, I am only like that either out of necessity, or because I genuinely love it. As for out of necessity, I have worked since I was 13 and had a full time job since I was 17. I worked and went to high school, more work than high school, since I was living on my own, so working 7 days a week was a necessity to make enough money to live. That was more environment I'd say. At this point, I love what I do so much and feel that I make an impact so the work makes me very very happy. However, I recognize that I also have (want) to have something else, namely family and friends in order to make the connections that I crave and hold dear. So when I'm working, I'm working, and when I'm with friends and family, that time is absolutely sacred. I don't have too much of a problem separating them anymore, as I've come into a position that I can do things on my own time, most of the time, unless a fire needs to be put out, of course. I'm not sure if it's my CT or if it's just that I've always had to work hard, in order to live, so at this point it's a chicken or egg thing to me.
I do take on a lot at work and I always find different projects that will add to my workload but will make things better, so it's worth it to me.. I enjoy being super busy, I like a 14 hour day to fly by, all with challenges and results a plenty. So, I wouldn't say I'm more 'grounded' necessarily, because I do at times take on too much as I want to be able to 'do it all', I make it work.. like by force of will, and then it's done.. and then I know I can handle more next time.. It can seem at times to me that I'm testing my limits. So I find out what I can or what I can't handle, because there are certainly times when the stress out weighs the positives.
I will say though, I'm not necessarily excited by a 'new' project for the sake of new, I'm excited by my job in general, so it's not the 'new' that makes me throw myself into my career, it's the path my career has taken me on that excites me. However, I am always taking on random projects so perhaps I'm fooling myself in the thought that it's not the newness.. but I think my wanting to take them on is more.. "I see this system is broken, I want to fix it, now", sort of thing.
Post by emotionallogic on Aug 21, 2013 7:51:28 GMT -5
Interesting! The lure of the new project for me is absolutely its novelty - usually intellectual novelty, because I'm super nerdy. Sometimes it seems like the less it has to do with the projects I have already committed to, the more seductive it is.